9.
I was 22 and working the night shift in a backpackers hostel in Mexico. I’d lay down on a bench close to the door so I could snooze between unlocking it and letting the guests in as they returned from their evening adventures. An older Mexican guy (late 40s [same age as my dad]) came to talk to me. I made it clear that I wasn’t interested in chatting at 3am. He started telling me how he had divorced his wife, sold his house and had approximately $40k USD left over. He was going to give $10k to each of his 3 kids and keep $10k for himself but if I moved to the north of Mexico with him he’d give it all to me. I reminded him I had a boyfriend and told him I wasn’t remotely interested in him or his money but he somehow took that as a cue to start trying to massage my feet. I kicked him off me and told him I would call security if he didn’t leave (he did). The owner of the hostel kicked him out the next day partly because of his creepiness and partly because the owner didn’t like cheap ass people using his hostel as a cheap hotel (he wanted backpackers only).
8.
A coworker gave me a ride to the train station because I had missed my bus, when I was a trainee. It is a 10-15 minutes ride, and I thought it nice of him but did not think much of it, I thought he was just helping out. When we were still in the car he then mentioned wanting to invite me for a drink one day, then offered me to drive me all the way back home (he was living near the train station we were heading to and it would have made a 45 minutes drive to get to my place !). I declined because I felt uncomfortable, and because without traffic the train was actually more convenient for me.
He mistaked my refusal for politeness or just outright ignored it and insisted, saying it was not bothering him to drive all the way here (at this point I did not care about him, I was just starting to get scared). He insisted and insisted and I had to argue and practically begged him to just drop me at the train station, finally mentioning that my Dad was waiting for me anyway at the terminus, and pretended we could have a drink some day, and he let it go. But it all happened as we were driving in the highway so I really felt trapped and it was really uncomfortable. Thankfully it was my last week here and I avoided him the last few days I worked.
7.
I was 16, there was this guy I knew from my social circle. We weren’t super close, but we were friends. It became apparently that he had a huge crush on me, but I just wasn’t interested. I told him very nicely when he asked me out, but he went off and told me that the thought of one day being with me was The only reason he had not killed himself yet. About a month later he starts texting me very these very graphic and violent sexual stories that he’s written for me. I’d get about 50 messages at a time. I asked him to stop, because it was harassment and he knew it was wrong, and he replied: (I know it word for word because I ended up having to read his messages to so many people) “Oh boo boo! Some creepy weirdo won’t stop texting me! What should I do? You’re a real bitch you know that! If you could’ve seen I was a nice guy, I This went on for a few months before we got the school involved, who threatened to hit him with a restraining order.
6.
Nice guy just back from a tour of service in some foreign land he can’t disclose due to mission secrecy. Cried to my mom about seeing his friends killed in action the first time he meets her… all lies. Dude wore fake dog tags. Ugh. The whole thing was so cringey in hindsight, but a total “nice guy” to a young naive me. So I told him off and stopped answering his calls. Naturally he shows up at my work, starts sobbing loudly in the middle of the book store I worked at while explaining that he had to lie about the army because he’s in witness protection due to him testifying against a mob guy he had gotten a gambling debt with… and begging me to “take him back”. Customers and coworkers alike overheard everything. My boss had to 86 him, and my mom had to change our phone number. Really a bummer too because he had a magnificent dick.
5.
“Nice Guy” asks me out in high school on the bus and I declined. He gave me the silent treatment after that. The next day he appears in my friend group with his arms encasing one of my friends who looked clearly uncomfortable. He tells her he loves her and how great of a woman she is to be giving him a chance to treat her like a princess. He looks at me while saying this. I talked to her after and he had asked her over and over to date him until she said yes. She was a very nice girl and I felt bad for her. I told her what happened and that seemed to give her the confidence to stop the dating after only a few hours.
We never saw him much after that thank goodness.
4.
I went to a “meet up” group for the first time. The app is really safe and a fun thing to do if you’re traveling. So I met a guy and I really enjoyed his company. He was very attractive and charming. So the next night he asked me if I would like to go out for drinks with his friends. I said yes and headed that way. He picked me up from the train station and told me his friends were just down the street at the pub. But first he needed to go to his apartment and charge his phone for 15 minutes. I agreed to go with him (stupid) and when we got to his apartment he was still charming and talkative. Then he moved closer to me and started kissing my neck and smelling my hair, so I stood up and said “I’m not sleeping with you!” And he got super pissed off and said that all of his friends were gone anyway and there was no group hangout and it was just a way to get me to come over. I was so embarrassed I didn’t say anything and just left.
3.
I wore a v-neck T-shirt. Not a deep cut V that actually shows cleavage…a cotton athletic tee with a college logo on it that was basically a crew neck but just happened to have a V shaped neck. My ex-boyfriend (very religious) told me it was rude of me to tempt him so he would fall from grace and want to sleep with me. He kept making comments and passive aggressively slut shaming me the rest of the night. I had just come home from the gym and was wearing sweatpants over jogging shorts…
2.
A guy asked me for directions then proceeded to follow me for four blocks. He was lagging a little behind, but trying to have a conversation with me. I was 17, shy, and seriously fucked up about men, so I didn’t have the self confidence to speak up about his creeper behavior. Another man across the street saw us and he confronted the guy, basically telling him to fuck off and leave me alone. I wasn’t as nice to my savior as I could have been, I was basically triggered and internally freaking out. I basically mumbled a thanks and left. I wish I could go back in time and thank him properly. I’d let him know what an impact he had on me and my outlook on men. I was more used to men hurting me, not defending me. I’d let him know that, even if though I can’t remember his face, not a week goes by that I don’t think about him.
1.
He jumped out of a bush to give me flowers and tell me he loves me after we met 2 times in college. apparently he hid there to wait for me after my classes. I was never so afraid for my life.
-lurrakay