19.
Second date, and “nice guy” surprise proposed me in a mall surrounded by too many people.
18.
I met this super sweet guy online, me and my friends met up with him and his friend at a bar and really hit it off. We went to a night club and had a great time. I decided to go home with him. We made out and started having sex. All of a sudden it was as if he changed. My arm got stuck in an uncomfortable position and I tried to tell him and move it but I couldn’t because he was using his whole bodyweight to hold me down, and he was ignoring me completely, as if he wasn’t having sex WITH me anymore but rather jerking off inside me, not sure how to explain it, but he wouldn’t listen to me that I was in pain. Then he told me he was going to fuck me in my ass until I was bleeding, upon which I just decided to lay still and hope he wouldn’t follow up on his words. Luckily he came pretty fast after saying those words.
I never really understood why he did that. I was already consenting to sex with him, he didn’t need to force me, yet he did. I think this dude wanted to rape.
17.
I knew this kid in 9th grade who seemed like a nice enough dude, let’s call him Frank. We became friends over our mutual love of video games, with him seeming to be a lot more invested in the friendship, but like I said, he seemed harmless. One day, I invite him over to my house to play games on my playstation. We have a good enough time, him continuously talking about how he’s so happy to have a friend who likes video games AND is a girl. Red flag, I know.
I get to school the next day, and during class, my friends tell me that Frank went and bragged to anyone that would hear that I invited him over and that he heard I was easy and brought a condom “just in case”. Being an angry and petty teenager, I walk up to him during lunch period, in front of a bunch of guys, and called him out for what he said. He began stuttering, but before he could finish, I told him he was a creep and to never talk to me again.
Cut to a few months later, and I’m called into the vice principal’s office. I get there, and she asked me if I was friends with Frank, and I responded that we used to be. She asked what ended our friendship, and I explained the situation to her. She looks at me and says “That’s not what he told us, but I think I know who’s telling the truth.”
Turns out that after I ended our friendship, Frank fixated on another girl, only to discover she had a boyfriend. Frank decided the best course of action to get rid of the boyfriend was to pull a knife on the kid in the hallway and threaten him. Security of course gets him and discovers he only had a butter knife. Still, he threatened someone, and so he was called into the principals’ office. Whereupon he explained that the only reason he pulled the knife on this guy was because he was so heartbroken after I dumped him following our ‘six-month anniversary’ and fell in love with this other girl because she ‘treated him right’.
He got suspended, but since it was close to the end of the school year, he just never came back and transferred schools the following school year. Good riddance.
16.
I worked for a few years at a children’s museum. There was this single dad with three daughters, who was cute but way too old for me, especially at the time, when I was 19 and he was about 35. I also got a weird vibe from him, but he was always very sweet, if a little uncomfortable. His daughters were adorable. The following events happened over probably a 6-month-period.
One day, some guest approaches me and asks me if I’ve seen this “missed connections” on Craigslist about the museum. It. Was. About. Me. The guy was writing about things we had talked about, and was saying how good we would be together, etc. Thinking back, I honestly think that she must have been friends with the guy???? Because it was too weird that she approached me out of all the other workers, then ASKED ME what I thought about the guy who wrote the ad?????????
Later, he found me on Facebook and tried to add me. I didn’t add him, and the next time he was in the museum, he followed me room to room and just glared at me from afar, not talking to me. Super uncomfortable. I thought it would be easier just to add him, so I did. Then he starts commenting really weird cringey sexual stuff on my photos, like a gif of Pikachu biting his lip, or just “FAPFAPFAPFAPFAP” so I decide enough is enough and deleted him.
THEN he tries to win me back or something??? He brings a wrapped canvas to the museum and gives it to MY BOSS saying it “would be too weird to just give it to her…” and my boss calls me down later and makes me open it in front of everyone (it was a very fun workplace and we loved to rip on each other) and it was a painting of one of my photos from Facebook! I was so mortified. I put it away, but one of my coworkers (and also my best friend) replaced the clock in the breakroom with my portrait, because she is a dick lol.
While it was funny, I also asked my boss to kinda watch out for him, so from then on I didn’t see him anymore, and I blocked him on Facebook. So I think I’m safe!
15.
One guy had a crush on me in high school. I didn’t really know him, besides small interactions that really didn’t make me like him.
One day I get sms from this unknown number, sending me romantic messages etc, anonymously. Figured out it was him and called him out that it is weird that he has my number. He was insisting for days to go out, so I agreed just to meet so we can get this over with. We went out, it was awkward, I told him i am not looking for a relationship or anything. Okay. Went home.
Then the shitstorm started.
Immediately after the date, he started pressuring me to date him. After I repeatedly and politely rejected him again(!), I got tons of messages, from different numbers, breathing calls, you name it. Calling me a bitch, he didn’t even like me, I ll be begging for his dick, followed by apologies, then the same cycle. It escalated to his friends and family members approaching me in public and going to my parents at work to ask me to date him, that he is actually a very nice guy.
I got sick of it and showed the messages to a member of his family. They were shocked and then I was left alone. After that, I never saw him in person again. He appeared online many years after that as a fucking neonazi.
I might have dodged a bullet there.
14.
I was trying to leave a frat party and the two guys “guarding” the closet claimed it was ‘house rule’ that a girl has to give them her number to get their coats. This was not a place I was familiar with, and it was a narrow hallways tucked out of the way from the rest of the party. They were larger than me, drunk AF, and kept trying to sweet talk me into staying upstairs with them instead because they’re so nice. Since they had been so nice to make sure no one stole our things at the party we had to pay them back. One guy even said I could just flash him instead.
I gave them my number, and when a guy started to text me I only responded with spiderman memes until he gave up. Literally never saw them again.
Edit: I was drunk, it was late, the party sucked and just wanted to go home. I felt cornered (my purse with my room key, phone and wallet were in the closet, as was my jacket and it was 35F out) and had also never been in the situation where a guy asked for my number wouldn’t take a no. I’m older and I know better now, as this was years ago.
Bonus: I also received my first ever dick pic from this guy, and my response of “my, that’s cute” was our last interaction over text. I’m still not sure which of the two young men I was actually talking to.
13.
I went on one date with a guy I had ‘met’ online after a year of talking. After the date i didn’t think it would be going anywhere (he had exaggerated what he looked like lmao) and after i told him this and we stopped talking he rang SIX florists in my area to send me a dozen red roses. The worst thing about it, I had never told him where I lived, he had used my location on the snapchat map for the estate that I lived in. When confronted about the roses he sent me a full length song that he had written about me and our one date. I was traumatised.
12.
I went on a date with a guy to a local park – taking my dog for a walk and checking out some cool scenery. He was over 45 minutes late, and when we got there spent the entire hour long loop talking about Westworld. I don’t watch it. He watches each episode multiple times, films reaction videos and takes detailed notes the whole time. Which, ok, but I told him I don’t watch it and had nothing at all to add to the one sided conversation.
When we got back to the cars, I was like “Thanks but I gotta go, I’m meeting up with a friend for a concert tonight,” which prompts a hour long one-sided conversation about Phish shows and how he and his mom traveled across the country following Phish. Three different 10 minute long Phish videos were played. Look, I love jam bands as much as anyone, but please LET ME GO HOME.
So I leave and spend the next few days moving into my new apartment. He knew I was moving and going to be super busy, but still sent me a nasty two page text about how I didn’t have to lead him on and that he deserved a text after our date and how girls are always dropping off the earth and we’re all the same. Yay, nice guys.
11.
I was at a party with my new classmates. Probably 60 people in one house not made for 60 people. The party dwindles down to about 20 early on as we had class the next day but a good group of people were willing to stick around drink and get to know one another.
A “nice guy” was getting orders so we could make a beer run and I agreed to help. Originally it was myself and 2 other girls and 2 boys going. I don’t know what happened but nice guy had changed it around a bit and now I was the only girl going. Which I didn’t notice till we were in the parking garage, me alone with 3 guys.
To paint a picture I’m. 5 foot 5. Not strong and don’t know any defence anything walking through a garage with 3 burly dudes who sling truss and stage for a regular Wednesday. All have been drinking but not drunk.
Nice guy says something to the effect of ‘wow you’re pretty dumb. There’s three of us and one of you…… Guys could have a lot of fun with that” and looks at the other two guys for approval of his plan.
I went white. I don’t know any of these guys from Adam and I have completelyeft myself open to attack here.
Thank God the driver (burliest of the burly dudes) looks at him and looks as me and says “did you just try and get us to agree to attack her? What the Fuck dude. Get away from her and if I see you around her or alone with a girl again you’ll be pissing blood.” the other guy with us, who also looked appropriately horrified at nice guys suggestion, agreed and said he’d be happy to call his girlfriend to come. Down here and walk. Me back to the party.
Turns out that not all Nice guys look nice and not everyone who looks and acts like a nice guy is a nice guy.
Married and made babies with the driver of that LCBO run btw. He’s (dh) a very
nicegood guy.
10.
We were friends until one day on Valentines day he brought out his guitar and sang to me in front of a crowd and ended up asking me to be his girlfriend. I had a boyfriend of 2 years so I had to say no to him infront of all those people. Thing is I had mentioned my boyfriend in almost every conversation and he still looked completely shocked that day when I told him I had a boyfriend. He was the nicest guy and I really appreciated our friendship! we stopped talking after that day though. I felt terrible!