Imagine having the kind of mother-in-law who would show up to your wedding in a white gown, I don’t know, just to be an asshole?
That’s just what happened to one Redditor, whose future MIL has always been… “difficult”. Here’s her story:
No pandemic shamers please, we had a 20 person outdoor wedding with masks. Anyway. My husband is the only child of a divorced mom, who has heavily relied on him for emotional support, yardwork, chores, anything you would rely on a husband for. According to my husband she’s hated every girlfriend he ever had, and I am no exception. I am stealinggggg her babbbyyyyyy.
OP explains that her MIL has always been one of those MILs who feel like a spouse is “stealing” her child. Great.
I have always been polite to her and ignored her passive aggressive jibes. This woman has bought the perfume I wear after asking me what it was, bought the same car in the same color as me 1 month after I got mine, insisted we spend Valentine’s Day with her, asked my husband why he doesn’t take her on vacations, you name it.
OP ignores the jibes and remains polite, despite her MIL doing insane stuff like demanding OP and her husband spend Valentine’s Day with the MIL.
I made the mistake of allowing her to come bridal gown shopping with me and my mom. There, she found a white wedding dress and insisted it was a perfect Mother of the Groom dress.
And then the wedding dress shopping. The MIL found a Mother of the Groom dress.. in white? What? Lady, no. Everyone was horrified.
I was horrified, my mother was horrified, the sales lady was horrified. We tried to convince her it was not appropriate and asked her to respect my wishes. No dice. She said “you are being a bridezilla and forgetting it’s my special day too.”
Hahaha. “It’s my special day too” made me laugh. IS IT?
I went home and told my fiancé (now husband) and he tried to reason with her and she would not have it.
The fiancé tried to reason with his mother, it never happened. OP gave up. Instead, she picked a PINK wedding gown and told her bridesmaids & her mom to pick white.
So, I decided we were changing things up. I picked a blush pink wedding gown without telling her, had my bridesmaids pick white dresses, and had my mom pick a white dress. We didn’t tell her any of this. She showed up the day of the wedding and had a shocked Pikachu face and was beet red.
When the MIL showed up, she was furious.
Honestly, the wedding was beautiful, it looked really stunning to have a white bridal party with white and pink florals and me in a pink dress. She had a scowl on her face the whole time.
OP wants to know if what she did was bullying… So. Was it?
The day after the wedding she called my husband and lectured him about how mean we were to her and we didn’t let her feel special and we took away her shine. Everyone I know is on my side, including my FIL (MILs) ex, but my husbands aunt said we bullied his mom by doing this. Did we? AITA?
No, right? Like. This is perfect. And thankfully, Reddit agreed!
“NTA. Not at all. Never. In fact, you can explain to her slowly and patiently that she was RIGHT about her dress. It was PERFECT and you see that now. She inspired you to ensure she fit in with the bridal party and didn’t everyone look FABULOUS? She really helped set you out from the crowd which was a LOVELY thing to do to a bride. You included her because she is SO important, just like your mother,” wrote Snapes_Mistress.
Another person said, “LOL she wanted to outshine you at your own wedding and wear white like some sort of second-tier bride and now she’s upset that you took that opportunity away from her. You are NTA and she needs to find some hobbies and a therapist.”
