One of the biggest reasons people go to therapy isn’t to “fix” their lives or relationships—though sometimes it helps—it’s to gain some much-needed perspective. This is especially helpful for those of us who tend to live inside our own heads and need outside perspective to feel normal and sane.
Here are 22 people who learned lessons in therapy that changed their outlook and attitude so greatly, they decided to tweet about it.
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today my therapist told me “dont waste your time on someone who wont bother to make time for you”
im inclined to agree— the her (@jovishark) March 21, 2019
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My therapist told me yesterday it’s ok to be angry. “Being angry is not a problem”
It’s how you manage it that becomes the problem.
— KARLOSSISTER (@Jai_Hov) March 21, 2019
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My therapist told me that when we love ourselves only 20% out of 100, we happily settle for anyone who loves us even 30%, thinking it's more than enough when it should be 100 on both sides. It really hit me. Please learn how to love yourself before you ask someone else to do it.
— Komal Shahid (@ArmedWithWords) March 25, 2019
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Then just slowly start examining more and more of your days. Find more things to put if that list. Keep a diary, circle or literally highlight the high points of your day. Buy some colorful highlighters and color pencils. Make it pop out when you read it.
— Milk (@StatusInsomnia) March 24, 2019
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my therapist told me, “not everyone you let in will stay but you are not at fault for confiding in and trusting them and you certainly aren’t the one to blame for them walking out on you. this isn’t on you, this person left so that someone better can come.” & i live by that now.
— irene ✿ (@irnhng) March 25, 2019
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Number one thing I learned in therapy: Love is unconditional, relationships are not.
PERIODT.
— Cleo Ellis (@CleoEllis_) March 27, 2019
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Today my therapist told me “you owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people” and that shit almost gave me a stroke.
— rad dad (@ohemgeeijizzed) November 30, 2018
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My therapist told me that anxious people have tendency to only explore the scary “what ifs” and challenged me to remember that there is also a flip side. What if you excel? What if it is one of the best experiences of your life? What if it changes you in a beautiful way?
— Mrs. Grotke (@__BHB__) October 18, 2018
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My therapist told me to act as my brain’s bouncer, refusing entry to negative thoughts.
me: I’m ugly & worthless
👊🏼: If you can’t be nice you can take a walkme: Give up writing you suck
💪🏼: I want you to be nice until it’s time to not be niceme: You’re just going to fail
👊🏼: pic.twitter.com/u8LveLDsK6— Kiyokotown (@kiyokotown) February 10, 2019
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my therapist told me today “you don’t have to say yes to every argument you are invited to” and that really sat with me.
— retiredpartygirlkay (@kaylatronica) October 16, 2018
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when my therapist told me this, it blew my mind
you can just tell them "so this is the plan! I hope you can make it!"
and then DO THE THING whether or not they show up
seriously as someone whose prime directive is TAKE CARE OF PEOPLE NO MATTER THE COST TO ME this blew me away
— Sarah Hollowell 🐋 (@sarahhollowell) June 17, 2018
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Recently my therapist told me that the stages of grief aren’t linear and that we move back and forth through them fluidly and out of order, which is why it feels so confusing sometimes. I don’t know if that’s helpful but there is a Grief Fact™️ for you.
— Emily Joy Allison (@emilyjoypoetry) December 27, 2018
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When my therapist told me I don’t have to be responsible for everyone in my life and that I could say no when something gets to be too much, it blew my mind. I still struggle with saying no sometimes and realizing its OKAY to prioritize myself, but it gets a bit easier every day.
— laura 🦋 (@laurarella) January 24, 2019
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Today my therapist told me, “Although being direct is your superpower, it doesn’t give you permission to be disrespectful.”
— Lula D. (@iRunWithLula) February 21, 2019
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Change used to terrify me
bc commitment used to terrify meWhat if I pick this option and then something better comes along?
My therapist told me: you still have to pick something. you can't wait around for the 'ifs.' You are not happy here.
— Shane Gann (@HailTheShane) March 12, 2019
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Today my therapist told me that when I'm working on a project I'm really not enjoying, I should focus on the end goal of that project, which is learning skills that I can apply to the things I do enjoy which I think is great advice!
— Xan 🌹 Drake (@XanDrakeArt) March 20, 2019