One of the biggest reasons people go to therapy isn’t to “fix” their lives or relationships—though sometimes it helps—it’s to gain some much-needed perspective. This is especially helpful for those of us who tend to live inside our own heads and need outside perspective to feel normal and sane.
Here are 27 people who learned lessons in therapy that changed their outlook and attitude so greatly, they decided to tweet about it.
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today my therapist told me “dont waste your time on someone who wont bother to make time for you”
— cat food queen (@jovishark) March 21, 2019
im inclined to agree
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My therapist told me yesterday it’s ok to be angry. “Being angry is not a problem”
— KARLOSSISTER (@Jai_Hov) March 21, 2019
It’s how you manage it that becomes the problem.
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My therapist told me that when we love ourselves only 20% out of 100, we happily settle for anyone who loves us even 30%, thinking it's more than enough when it should be 100 on both sides. It really hit me. Please learn how to love yourself before you ask someone else to do it.
— Komal Shahid (@ArmedWithWords) March 25, 2019
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Then just slowly start examining more and more of your days. Find more things to put if that list. Keep a diary, circle or literally highlight the high points of your day. Buy some colorful highlighters and color pencils. Make it pop out when you read it.
— Milk (@StatusInsomnia) March 24, 2019
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my therapist told me, “not everyone you let in will stay but you are not at fault for confiding in and trusting them and you certainly aren’t the one to blame for them walking out on you. this isn’t on you, this person left so that someone better can come.” & i live by that now.
— irene (@irenelilyh) March 25, 2019
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Number one thing I learned in therapy: Love is unconditional, relationships are not.
— Cleo Ellis (@CleoEllis_) March 27, 2019
PERIODT.
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Today my therapist told me “you owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people” and that shit almost gave me a stroke.
— rad dad (@ohemgeeijizzed) November 30, 2018
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My therapist told me that anxious people have tendency to only explore the scary “what ifs” and challenged me to remember that there is also a flip side. What if you excel? What if it is one of the best experiences of your life? What if it changes you in a beautiful way?
— Mrs. Grotke (@__BHB__) October 18, 2018
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my therapist told me “the things you think of as cracks in your armor are really places you’ve put yourself back together” so if you need me, i’m fucking crying on the c train
— rosemary donahue (@rosadona) March 25, 2019
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today my therapist told me that no matter how hard I try and how much I do, it will never ever be enough for the wrong person. it’s so simple, but it hit me at just the right time
— abigail rae (@abigailraewhit) August 31, 2018
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My therapist told me to act as my brain’s bouncer, refusing entry to negative thoughts.
— Kiyokotown (@kiyokotown) February 10, 2019
me: I’m ugly & worthless
👊🏼: If you can’t be nice you can take a walk
me: Give up writing you suck
💪🏼: I want you to be nice until it’s time to not be nice
me: You’re just going to fail
👊🏼: pic.twitter.com/u8LveLDsK6
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my therapist told me today “you don’t have to say yes to every argument you are invited to” and that really sat with me.
— k a y l a 🦋 (@kaylatronica) October 16, 2018
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when my therapist told me this, it blew my mind
— Sarah Hollowell 🐋 (@sarahhollowell) June 17, 2018
you can just tell them "so this is the plan! I hope you can make it!"
and then DO THE THING whether or not they show up
seriously as someone whose prime directive is TAKE CARE OF PEOPLE NO MATTER THE COST TO ME this blew me away
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My therapist told me this earlier this year and I promise I’m taking it to my grave:
— KG (@BELLEionaire) October 31, 2018
If someone can’t tell you what you did wrong or what the problem is, it is none of your business.
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my therapist told me that ppl aren’t always going to have support wrapped up in the perfect package just like you like it and that’s okay. recognize the sentiment and help them support you better, but don’t dismiss them for trying. it’s hard to understand that but i’m learning.
— బన్నీ ♡ (@pasteIqueer) December 17, 2018
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Recently my therapist told me that the stages of grief aren’t linear and that we move back and forth through them fluidly and out of order, which is why it feels so confusing sometimes. I don’t know if that’s helpful but there is a Grief Fact™️ for you.
— Emily Joy (@emilyjoypoetry) December 27, 2018
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today my therapist told me something important: “ur desire for validation is valid but it is not a necessity”
— freudian nip slip 🔪 (@verygayrae) December 31, 2018
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When my therapist told me I don’t have to be responsible for everyone in my life and that I could say no when something gets to be too much, it blew my mind. I still struggle with saying no sometimes and realizing its OKAY to prioritize myself, but it gets a bit easier every day.
— laura 🦋 (@laurarella) January 24, 2019
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Today my therapist told me, “Although being direct is your superpower, it doesn’t give you permission to be disrespectful.”
— Lula Dualeh (@iRunWithLula) February 21, 2019
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Change used to terrify me
— Stay-At-Home Shane (@HailTheShane) March 12, 2019
bc commitment used to terrify me
What if I pick this option and then something better comes along?
My therapist told me: you still have to pick something. you can't wait around for the 'ifs.' You are not happy here.
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my therapist told me “you will never have to chase a true friend” ..idk, just let that sit on the brain.
— miko (@ameyahh) March 20, 2019
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Today my therapist told me that when I'm working on a project I'm really not enjoying, I should focus on the end goal of that project, which is learning skills that I can apply to the things I do enjoy which I think is great advice!
— Xan Drake (@XanDrakeArt) March 20, 2019
h/t BuzzFeed