Woman’s Twitter Post Shows The Important Difference Between A Healthy Relationship And Emotional Abuse

Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships with a partner who can be jealous and overprotective. While a little jealousy is okay in relationships, there are times when the jealousy can manifest into something completely toxic and unhealthy–emotional abuse.
For some, it’s hard to differentiate between a controlling partner and one who is emotionally abusive. However, one Twitter user posted text message receipts that perfectly shows the important difference between the two.

@MayLarsen14 posted two different text message threads between a girlfriend and a boyfriend. The girl was telling the boyfriend that she was “out with some friends” and “at a party.” One boyfriend used the situation to make the girlfriend feel guilty and manipulate her into thinking she’s wrong–which is emotionally abusive. The other boyfriend simply told her to have fun and call him later.


If you’re ever in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad for hanging out with your friends, you should see this as a red flag. Essentially, the first guy is gaslighting his girlfriend into thinking she is untrustworthy by claiming she would cheat on him. Additionally, he’s trying to deflect from his abusive and controlling behavior and manipulating her into thinking she has done something wrong by going out without him.

The other guy shows that he trusts his girlfriend and understands that she should have a life outside of him. He also shows he cares by telling her to let him know she gets home safely. That is the definition of a healthy dynamic.

People on Twitter had a lot of emotional reactions and feelings about this–many who claim they’ve been in the emotionally abusive relationship before and had a hard time coming to terms with it.

Lex Gabrielle

A mom of two who loves to spend her free time writing about life, love, and all the little moments in between.

I have a bachelor’s degree in media studies and journalism and two master’s degrees in education. When I’m not writing and chasing my two kids around, I teach journalism full-time.