Consent is truly the most important aspect of any sexual encounter. And with the #MeToo movement, consent is at the forefront of our minds. One Argentinian company, Tulipán, tried to address the issue by creating what they’re calling a “consent condom” that comes in packaging that requires four hands to be opened, the idea being that you can be sure that every sexual interaction is a consensual one. Uhhhhh…
Except that condoms aren’t the problem. Because the real issue, which goes so much deeper, is that people need to learn to communicate with their partners about what is and what isn’t okay.
Articles about the new condom were tweeted by both CBS and the New York Post, and people jumped in in droves to point out the obvious problems.
If a man doesn’t care about your consent I can promise you he doesn’t care about putting on a condom first https://t.co/HjQxDYsysd— Blaec Francis (@blaec_francis) April 10, 2019
From: Land of Useless & Unnecessary Things ????♀️ https://t.co/vA2bzSlXbD— KellyShi Mother of Pandas ???????? (@KellyShibari) April 9, 2019
Ah yes. this solves everything. No flaws. https://t.co/Rfm7nIfo51— Steele VanDenBerghe (@YoSoySteele) April 11, 2019
Bloody hell. Making condoms harder to use isn’t going to encourage consent!!
— sianushka (@sianushka) April 10, 2019
They really solved the problem with this one.
— Victor Cass (@Victor_Cass) April 7, 2019
Let’s get real. The reason this exists is so someone can say “but they helped me open the condom!” Even if they withdrew consent after opening it. Even if the person opened it by themselves.
— Soft Barbie™ (@juleandtheholos) April 10, 2019
How many rapists practise safe sex I wonder
— M̷à̢͘r͝k̵̨^͢B͠ast͢͏a̢͝r͢͟d̶ (@Mark_Bastard) April 8, 2019
I’m sure this holds up in court.
— Blockchain Ultra HD (@KerbonautJeb) April 8, 2019
what fucking dude thought this was a good idea?
— “Celia” (@_celia_bedelia_) April 10, 2019
I know this is probs just a way to try and go viral but:— Julia Pugachevsky (@jaypugz) April 10, 2019
1. This dumbs down the idea of healthy communication re: sex in a harmful way
2. It's the condom equivalent of dudes asking for recorded videos of consent
3. Putting on a condom ≠ automatic consent of all sexual activity https://t.co/Xuq58MKJlW
Imagine the meeting where someone said, "Straight men are so incompetent that they can't talk to or listen to the women they're trying to have sex with, so let's literally have them solve a 3D puzzle to get the condom out of the wrapper." https://t.co/cdNiojPoA8— Moira Donegan (@MoiraDonegan) April 10, 2019
Cue the creation of a billion dollar "consent" industry when really people just need to fundamentally respect each other and communicate.— [Harm To Ongoing Matter] (@absurdistwords) April 11, 2019
"We'll get to that part after we're done selling you consent gimmicks" https://t.co/kz9NVLPgOz
As was mentioned, there’s no way that making a condom hard to use is going to lead to consent. It’s amazing that this condom even got made, because it’s just so gimmicky. It’s great that more and more people are joining the international conversation about consent, but this ain’t it.
h/t: CBS News