Men Are Sharing Times They Stopped Misogyny And Predatory Behavior

The toxic masculinity reckoning is upon us, and folks of both genders are doing their best to address it and shut it down. Famous men are falling like dominos—though that doesn’t mean all men are complete trash.

Over the weekend, Twitter user @emrazz kicked off a thread asking the Good Guys to tell stories about times they shut down “misogyny or predatory behavior” from other men. She asked men to share what they said and did, and how they’d suggest other men behave in similar situations.

Good guys: tell me about a time you saw misogyny or predatory behavior in action and spoke up. What did you say? What are your suggestions for other men in this situation? #NotCoolMan

— feminist next door (@emrazz) March 3, 2019

Less than two days later, and the tweet had racked up over 850 replies from men sharing the many ways they’ve kicked misogyny in the so-called nuts. Whether it was simply not laughing at a sexist joke, rescuing a woman from an uncomfortable situation, or explaining to the victimizer why certain behaviors are gross and inappropriate, these men (and women) prove the world is definitely changing for the better.

Here are some of the best stories and suggestions from folks who masterfully shut down misogyny.

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Being at work at a grocery store when I was younger. I saw a bunch of coworkers going from aisle to aisle like they were looking for a shoplifter. I'm nosy. They were following a woman. I pointed out how creepy it was and got ridiculed as "a pussy" because I didn't conform.

— Brian Woods (@BrianWoods1976) March 3, 2019

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https://twitter.com/gnarzz/status/1102074945931112448

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https://twitter.com/bonuslife/status/1102064273663164416

4.

https://twitter.com/SusChecked/status/1102062585220878336

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https://twitter.com/CodyDCollins_/status/1102064107325440001

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https://twitter.com/prooffreader/status/1102066940347142146

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Most of the time, yes it happens a lot, if you just engage with the woman in a friendly way the guy moves on
Other times you say “hey man, she’s not into it”
Last resort you step between and say “hold up! Stop!”

In high school i got into scuffles but that hasn’t happened since

— Diedrich Bader (@bader_diedrich) March 3, 2019

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I saw a doctor, sitting by a phone, demand the female nurse dial the operator for him. I showed him the magic of his pointer finger and the amazing things he could do.. like push the letter O on the phone. Not exciting, but the belittling based on gender alone made me $&# crazy..

— Ja Mes 🧣🧬🫀 (@jwittstein) March 3, 2019

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https://twitter.com/reepicheep37/status/1102073432877916160

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https://twitter.com/ancatdubh2/status/1102062805560315904

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https://twitter.com/aprilmedred87/status/1102064481184571392

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Just to add, I think the “we” is important. A guy who feels ostracized isn’t going to go for self-reflection. “We” makes him feel included, and when people feel included, they want to act like the rest of the group. Hope this helps someone!

— Kid Awesome1 (@Kid_Awesome1) March 3, 2019

h/t Twitter