There exists a sub on Reddit called “Am I The A—hole?” and anyone who has ever wasted any significant amount of time on it knows that it’s mostly populated by people who just want to hear that they aren’t the a—hole, even though they suspect the exact opposite.
Well recently, a dude wondering if he was the a—hole received so many affirmative responses in so short amount a time that he was forced to delete his account almost immediately.
“AITA for thinking formula should come out of my wife’s budget?” he asked.
Right off the bat, you may be inclined to be like, “yeah, no doubt.” But if you give him the benefit of the doubt and read the remainder of his post then…your suspicions will be confirmed. He is, most definitely TA.
“She has been breastfeeding for 6 months since the baby was born and now wants to switch to formula. She makes plenty of milk and everything she just says she ‘feels done.’ I think if she wants to stop for basically no reason then the money for formula should come out her personal spending money because she is the one making that decision. She says I’m an a—hole and it should come from the family/grocery budget (which is already tight) even though I don’t have a say.”
take all the food out of the house and tell him to get fed on his own body pic.twitter.com/WOjv0UFPTt— endora bullshit (@collectdust) March 25, 2019
TLDR: New mom is tired of breastfeeding and wants to switch to formula, her husband believes this decision is being made “for no reason” and wants her to spend her own money on the baby formula.
Naturally, this new father’s reticence in FEEDING HIS CHILD prompted the general response of:
Many women figured that a nice solution would be to have dad put his money where his mouth is, and to craft an Excel spreadsheet invoicing him for hours spent nursing, pumping, incubating, and gaslighting.
Though the large majority of commenters said that this scenario is pure nightmare fuel.
Other solutions included replacing cow milk with breast milk:
And/or losing the whole, entire husband.
A quick reminder to the men out there: Pregnancy, breastfeeding, and pumping is only free if you think women’s time and bodies are worthless.
And in case there’s any confusion: Yes, sir, you are the a—hole.