When we’re young, we feel as though we are invincible. It’s like having the magic star in Mario Kart–nothing can touch us. But, as we get older, we look back and realize all of the mistakes we have made, especially in our 20’s.
By the time we are in our 40’s, we look back and think of all the lessons, advice, and warnings we wish we could give our 20-year-old selves. If you could go back in time, what would you tell your 20-year-old self? Nyasha Junior, Religion Professor at Temple University, asked 40-year-old+ women on Twitter to share that one piece of advice they’d give themselves in their youth…
If you are a 40+ woman, what one piece of advice would you give to your 20-something self? pic.twitter.com/igZCFoFsAP
— Nyasha Junior (@NyashaJunior) September 16, 2018
…And we can all learn a thing or two from them.
all those things you think you’re weird for feeling and are trying to suppress, and all the things you’re doing to “prove” yourself normal – stop doing that, you’ll be much happier for it
— harrie “glorious being of light and miracles” kd (@harriekd) September 17, 2018
Buy what you want with what’s left after buying what you need and $ aside for savings
Don’t expect everyone to like you, you don’t like everyone
You can love your family members without liking them, no need for guilt
Quality costs less than cheap, over the long run
— Anna Wick (@Unitynow8) September 17, 2018
You don’t have to give up any of yourself for the right person.
— Andi Cumbo-Floyd (@andilit) September 16, 2018
Save more, travel more, say NO more, say what you feel AT THE TIME YOU FEEL IT more
— Andrea Morgan (@AndreaDMorgan) September 16, 2018
Never chase anyone who doesn’t want you. Not a job, not a love interest – you will always be begging for their attention. Go where you’re wanted, make your own opportunities, and never wait for someone to ask you to do what you want to do. Don’t forget your worth!
— Lauri Lynnxe Murphy (@lynnxe) September 16, 2018
Define success for yourself. Define what you care about. Don’t substitute the judgment of others for your own. You are the expert at you.
— Denise Hamilton (@OfficialDHam) September 16, 2018
1. Be less afraid to work for your own happiness.
2. Go on vacation and take cute pictures.
3. Stop thinking so much about the man you love, either he is yours or he isn’t, it isn’t much you can do to change that.
4. Go ahead and try, the worst they can say is no.
— Blair LM Kelley (@profblmkelley) September 16, 2018
Learn your strengths and design a life where you use them everyday. Get liberated from the myth of well-roundedness. Find your edge, sharpen it, and then use it to craft a life you love.
— Amber Benson (@AmberBenson) September 16, 2018
Fear is a liar. Trust your gut. Don’t use someone else’s mirror to see your own reflection. Say yes to the things that scare you and no to anything that keeps you playing small. Ask for what you want and pay attention to what you get. Travel and laugh often.
— Grace Killelea (@gracekillelea) September 16, 2018
Question the story you’ve told yourself about yourself. Try things, even if you’ve told yourself you won’t like it or won’t be good at it. Save $ every paycheck, even if it’s only $10.
— When Doves Cry (@PupsherLive) September 16, 2018