If you were jet-setting off on a fun vacation, would you make your significant other — presumably the love of your life — fly coach while you were up in first class?
No, right?
Like, this is just such an indescribably odd thing to do to someone and I cannot wrap my head around why anyone would treat their spouse this way, but that’s exactly what happened to u/ThrowRAeconomy550. She recently hopped on Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for resending how her husband treated her on vacation. Here’s her story.
My husband and I 30s haven’t been on a trip (out of coutry) for years. while he goes every year with his best friend. his reasons for going with him is because they both go to attend sporting events.
OP’s husband heads out of the country every year with his best friend. OP has not been on a trip in years. I already hate this guy.
This year, my husband told me I could go with him and his friend since they were visiting a new destination. He paid for my ticket and everything else since I’m a sahm and have no job. the kids were left with my mom.
OP is a stay-at-home parent, which means she is dependent on her husband (ALARM BELLS RINGING?) for finances. When her husband decided to “let” her go with him, he paid for the trip.
However. When I found out that he had booked 1st class for himself and his friend while I got economy. I just couldn’t hold my tongue. I confronted him about it and he at first refused to discuss then when the argument got heated he yelled “I PAID FOR YOUR TICKET FFS!!! ISN’T THAT ENOUGH???”
When OP found out that her husband had booked her an economy ticket while he got to fly first class, she called him out. An argument ensued.
then kept on about how I should stop acting like I was “royalty” and that if I come to think about it, even economy is fine for me since I “technically” don’t work anyway.
This guy clearly resents OP and lobbed a cheap shot at her “not working”. Because childcare is just free, I guess.
I cried because of what he said but decided to just not go altogether. He changed his tone and started begging me to just go with what he planned but I declined. I went to pick the kids from my mom’s house and he came back 3 hrs later huffing and buffing about what happened.
OP decided to remove herself from the entire situation. She got the kids back and made the decision to stay home. Her husband, as expected, behaved atrociously.
His friend sent me a text calling me entitled, and said this was the reason why he didn’t want my husband to take me with them and I just proved his point. I did not respond but I blocked him since he’s gotten increasingly rude over the past few months.
He (my husband) said I keep crying about being excluded and this is what happens when he finally decides to include me. amitheasshole for not settling for economy? by the way he’s perfectly capable of financing the trip.
So now OP is left to wonder: is she a jerk here? No. Not at all. But let’s check out some responses from Reddit:
One user wrote, “If you’re a SAHM then all the money he earns is SHARED FUNDS. There is no “him” paying, in fact you paid for his first class ticket as much as he paid for your economy ticket. The level of disrespect is astounding. Divorce him and get half plus alimony. NTA.”
Another wondered, “Is your husband having an affair with his friend? Why is his friend so rude to you and why is friend being treated like the spouse in this situation?? Whether or not he’s having an affair he’s definitely shown you how he feels about you. Nta.”