Every so often AITA gets a really eye-roll-worthy man who struggles with period blood.
Look, okay, it’s blood. It comes from a vagina. You don’t have to BATHE in the stuff and you don’t have to love it but you do have to get over it.
u/throway195067 asked the subreddit if he was an assh*le for “getting angry with my girlfriend and demanding she pay to replace my sheets after she got blood on them” and the answer is already yes, you are the ass, but I guess we should hear him out:
OP sets the story by explaining that he and his girlfriend recently moved in together. Great! Mazel.
I (M26) have been dating my girlfriend (F24) for about a year now, and we recently moved in together. She didn’t have a lot of furniture and such, so it’s mostly mine in our apartment including my bed (frame, mattress, sheets). I am a bit of a neat freak, and she generally is too, so we get along pretty well living together.
He also explains that periods are not a big deal and he doesn’t get weirded out by it. HOWEVER, oh boy, he does get “grossed out” when it gets on his sheets.
Now I’m not one of those guys that gets grossed out over a woman having her menstrual cycle. I’ve had sex with my girlfriend on lighter days with a towel down. I’ll go buy her feminine products. I don’t get weirded out if she mentions it. I will say though, it totally grosses me out getting on my bed though.
And, I mean, OKAY. Like I said, you can find it gross. But you know what we have to handle gross things? Washing machines. I digress.
Well a few days ago when we woke up I noticed a blood spot on the bed and got totally grossed out. I knew she had been on her period for 3 days already so it wasn’t any sort of surprise accident.
FUN NEWS FLASH FOR MEN: oh my god, we do not know when it starts, ends, or how heavy it will be. We can guess! But we’ll be wrong sometimes.
I asked how it happened and she was upset and said she thought she didn’t need to sleep with anything on. I told her that was absurd, why would you go without wearing anything and get blood all over my bed. I told her that was irresponsible and that she needed to pay me for new sheets.
So this dingbat yells at his girlfriend and demands she buy him sheets. F this guy.
She agreed to pay for new sheets but got upset with me for getting angry and calling her irresponsible. She said that she likes to not wear anything when she can. She said she thought her flow was light and she wouldn’t bleed over night. She says I have no reason to be angry to talk down to her over something I don’t experience. I said that she should’ve been more careful with where we sleep and that it was unhygienic.
AITA for getting upset and wanting her to pay?
The girlfriend was rightfully mad at this guy! So he took to Reddit to see if he was the asshole. FORTUNATELY, his edits take us on a redeeming journey.
ETA: A lot of people seemed confused by what I said ‘not wearing anything”. She was wearing her normal pajamas, just no menstrual products. She said since she’s on birth control she is very light on day 3 and doesn’t ever bleed on the sheets. It still seems unreasonable to me to not have something for extra coverage just in case. To everyone saying to just wash the sheets, she did, but I just don’t like the thought of it.
First he clarifies that she just wasn’t wearing a pad or a tampon or anything, not “no clothing”.
Second Edit: I obviously see that I was a prick for being condescending towards her and not being sensitive to her embarrassment. I told her I was going to replace the sheets myself. She got upset again saying she didn’t want to financially burden me every time she could potentially have a leak and that washing them was good enough. I told her I obviously just have a weird phobia with it I need to work through. I did ask her to wear products every night until she knows it’s gone, and she called me ignorant, and had no right to suggest how she handles her period. She’s coming to get her stuff to stay with her mom, so it feels pretty over. I’m sure many of y’all will be happy to hear.
Then he says he sees that he’s an asshole for his condescension. Which, sure, yes, but that’s not the problem. She was still upset that this would be an ongoing thing and she took her stuff to her mom’s.
Third: Yep, she says it’s definitely over. I tried taking what some of you said about understanding that the flow fluctuates and all that, but she said the damage was done.
Girlfriend broke up with him. Good for her.
Final Update: After sleeping on it and talking to my friends and family, I am definitely in the wrong here. I had no reason to be that grossed out and ask her to replace sheets when she washed them. I definitely had no right telling her she was irresponsible and how to manage her own body. I apologized to her sincerely, and said she definitely deserved better than that. She agreed and is not taking me back, which I deserve.
This was my first time living with a woman and I fucked up big time. Thanks to the people trying to give helpful advice, and thanks to the sub for showing me how awful I acted. I’m going to take in all of this moving forward. I shouldn’t have ever seen my apartment as still MY apartment when she moved in. That was awful of me too. Best I can do is take this all in and learn from it and treat the next person in my life better. People of Reddit, have a good weekend