A newlywed whose husband insisted on marriage before sex wants to know if she’s the a**hole for feeling deceived after finally discovering he has a “micropenis” on their honeymoon.
Written by a 27-year-old using a throwaway account and shared to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” sub, the post begins by detailing the couple’s whirlwind romance.
She had only known her 32-year-old husband for about a year before the two finally tied the knot, during which time he repeatedly staved off her sexual advances—not because he was religious, but because he was “old fashioned like that.” ????????????
So, we only dated for six months. We’ve been engaged for another six and just got married on Saturday. I literally just got back from my honeymoon a couple hours ago.
My husband isn’t a religious guy, he just says he is “old fashioned like that.” We got close to fooling around a couple times but it never went far. I tried, but he always stopped after it went “too far”.
Anyway, fast forward to now…
OP wants to know: Is she the a**hole for being upset? She elaborates that her intention is not to shame him, nor is it to seek any concrete advice about next steps—she just wants to know if her feelings of betrayal are justified.
Am I the a**hole for reading into this and being upset that I waited until my wedding night to find out that he probably isn’t as “old fashioned” as he says he is? I’m not going to shame him and honestly I don’t even know how I’ll broach the topic (and I’m not seeking advice).
I honestly just acted like nothing was out of the ordinary and went to town with him, but…I dunno. I kind of feel lied to.
Like a halftruth…or something was intentionally withheld from me. This was unexpected, to say the least. And if you read this far, thanks for your time.
Though there were some (jerks, tbh) who felt as though OP got what she deserved for marrying someone so soon into their relationship, most agreed that she was justified in feeling lied to and betrayed.
Redditors are convinced that the husband’s shameless betrayal signals OP has far bigger things (ha ha) to worry about in the future.
At some point, people demanded clarification of ‘micro’ to determine what that meant in terms of functionality/childbearing, etc.
OP replied.
THIS…is why you always test drive before you buy.
h/t r/AITA